My Story
Hi there!
My name is Goran Klobučar.
Here is my story that brought me here to where I am now in life.
This website would not exist if I hadn`t gone through my transformation that changed my mindset, and especially the relationship with myself.
I died 4 years ago.
Well, I felt I had died within myself.
I felt how it is when your life stops.
When your picture of who you are crushes into million pieces.
When dark thoughts come about the reason to live.
What happened?
A divorce.
Some say divorce is something common nowadays.
Well, it still is one of the most stressful and painful moments in life.
It also depends on how you experience it.
Because for me, a divorce was not only a separation.
For me, it represented the end of my existence.
Why?
I identified my self-worth with my wife, family, and with the role of being a husband.
I believed that who I was, was defined by my family and wife.
You know, I never felt good enough, or successful in life, I felt like a loser,
but having a family and being married was my measure of success.
And when that was gone, I was gone.
I lost my identity, my value, my reason to live.
It was hard and painful.
My life was literally turned upside down. I considered seeking help from a therapist,
even though I had a strong prejudice against it. To me, the idea of seeing a therapist
meant that I was incapable and needed help and instructions on how to live.
This caused me great stress and confirmed that something was wrong with me.
However, due to the situation, I found the courage and said YES and took help.
During my transformational process, I realized that I had been living
based on patterns and beliefs that were not mine but were “programmed”
into me by my parents, family, and environment during childhood, so
I had taken them as my own.
I hadn’t realized this before, as I was struggling and lived in stress due to my
adopted beliefs, and thoughts that I wasn’t worthy or capable of achieving more.
I also felt that I didn’t deserve more.
I slowly began to understand myself and all my past actions and why
I reacted in certain situations the way I did, even though I didn’t want to.
Because of all these deeply rooted beliefs, I reacted in ways to unintentionally
hurt others, especially those closest to me, due to my distress and inability
to function differently.
I was on autopilot and didn’t know how to control myself.
Even though I felt bad about my actions, I preferred to hide and withdraw,
sinking into shame, anger, and sadness instead of expressing all my emotions
and talking about them.
We all carry patterns and beliefs from childhood that guide us through life until we
recognize and become aware of them. But most people don’t reach this realization
and continue living with beliefs that aren’t their own and limit them in life because
they don’t know how to change them.
What was groundbreaking for me during my self-discovery and growth journey
was also realizing what kind of relationship I had with myself.
This is, in fact, the most important relationship. If you don’t have a good
relationship with yourself, it’s hard to establish a genuine relationship
with anyone else.
To be honest, I didn’t have a good relationship with myself in my life.
Most of the time, I was critical of myself, blaming myself for minor things, and
disappointed in myself for not achieving what I wanted.
I rarely praised myself or treated myself to something just for my soul.
I am grateful that I managed to completely change my relationship with myself.
The feelings that I am good exactly as I am and that I can achieve anything if I want to
are indescribable.
I value, respect, and believe in myself much more.
And, crucially, I love myself.
This is extremely important for life.
It’s the foundation for happiness and better relationships with others.
I am grateful I managed to face all this and heal from it, thankfully also with the
help of a therapist and later also from two coaches.
And that was only the start of my personal development journey.
It was the catapult that propelled me into the adventure of a lifetime.
Furthermore, during my self-discovery, I found my purpose, I found my life mission.
My life mission, my WHY is to promote building self-relationship
as a crucial aspect in people’s lives.
To support and help them to make that first step toward themselves, to say YES to life,
and and start building their self-relationship where I can be their guide on the path to
their better life.
I am also a proud father of 3 children and I am mentioning them because,
after my transformation, I can now give them a lot more than I used to.
They have a lot more from their father now. This is another consequence
of a changed mindset.
So here I am on my life journey, inspiring people how life can be beautiful
if they first discover the beauty in themselves.