I died 5 years ago.
Well, I felt like I had died within.
I felt what it is like when your life stops.
When your picture of who you are crumbles into a million pieces.
When dark thoughts come about the reason to live.
What happened?
A divorce.
Some say divorce is something common nowadays.
Well, it still is one of the most stressful and painful moments in life.
It also depends on how you experience it.
Because for me, a divorce was not only a separation.
For me, it represented the end of my existence.
Why?
I identified my self-worth with my wife, my family, and with the role of being a husband.
I believed that who I was, was defined by my family and wife.
When that was gone, I was gone.
I lost my identity, my value, my reason to live.
It was hard and painful.
But I am grateful I took the courage and got help.
And that was the start of my process of transformation.
I found out that one of the biggest reasons for the divorce was
my unhealthy and toxic self-relationship.
I realized that my marriage broke down because:
– of all those deep conversations that didn`t happen
– I was not safe with myself to express my emotions
– I felt worthless, incompetent, and not manly enough
– I hated myself, and was ashamed of myself
Uh, when I look back at the person who I was, I can only say: » I am sorry, I saw and treated you the way I did.«
I was not aware that the love, happiness, respect, support, and compassion that I wanted to give in my relationship, I first needed to give to myself.
But my cup was empty, so I couldn`t give what I didn`t have.
Remember:
The foundation for a loving and healthy relationship is a loving and healthy self-relationship.
And you don`t need to wait for your life to crush to build your self-relationship.
No, you can do it NOW.
And I am encouraging you to seriously START DOING IT NOW.
Because I really don`t want you to say…. OR it will be too late.
I reall want you, from my bottom of my heart, to have a loving relationship with your partner (current or the future one), but please ….
Do first take care of your self-relationship.
And if your need any help with that. I can help you.
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Let’s get real about where you are right now, and what’s possible when you reconnect with yourself.