If you can`t be happy alone, no new relationship will ever fill that void.

This was one of my biggest fears but now also one of my biggest revelations.

For a long time, I believed that being alone meant something was wrong with me—that without a partner, I wasn’t good enough or couldn’t truly be happy.

I`d convinced myself that happiness came from being with someone, and that being alone equaled failure.

After my divorce, that fear grew even stronger.

I felt ashamed, wondering if I was somehow less worthy because I was now alone.

The loneliness was loud, and my sense of self-worth took a hit.

I feared the quiet moments because, in them, 𝗜 𝗳𝗮𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲.

But here’s what I didn’t understand back then: 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗮𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗲 𝗺𝗲—𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘂𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

Building that connection has been the most transformative experience of my life.

Learning to be comfortable alone, to find happiness simply in who I am, has freed me.

I’ve come to appreciate my own worth, not as defined by anyone else but simply as me.

It was never about filling a void with someone else—𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝘆 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲, 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲.

When you build a healthy self-relationship, your other relationships naturally become better too.

You’re no longer seeking happiness or acceptance from others, 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

This isn’t just about being happy alone, it’s about freeing yourself from needing others to validate your worth or bring you peace.

You possess all that within.

You just need to uncover it – by building a self-relationship.